If you can’t sleep even when your baby sleeps, you’re not doing it wrong. Your brain is still on duty, and nobody has come to relieve it.
You might have come here from a photo of a nightstand. A baby monitor glowing in the dark. A mug of tea gone cold. A phone face-down, because you’d already searched “why can’t I sleep when my baby sleeps” three times that week.
Look at that picture again, and notice who else is in the room.
Nobody.
That was my room for months after my daughter was born. She’d finally drift off after the 2 AM feed, and I’d lie there exhausted but wired, listening to every breath, counting the minutes until she woke again.
I tried what everyone tries. Tea didn’t touch it. High-dose melatonin gave me nightmares. And everyone kept saying “sleep when the baby sleeps,” as if my brain had an off switch I’d forgotten to use.
It took me a long time to understand that nothing was wrong with me. Then I learned how new mothers used to be cared for. In China, they “sit the month.” In Latin America, they keep la cuarentena. For 30 to 40 days, family carried the house and took the baby between feeds. That’s when it clicked: I was standing a watch that, for most of human history, new mothers never stood alone.
So I made NightWatch™: a 1 mg melatonin strip you take at bedtime, in bed, with no water. It isn’t a knock-out pill, and it can’t give you back the grandmother down the hall. Here are the five reasons I made it, and why I think it’s worth a look if your nights look like mine did.